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Sunday, October 08, 2006

Scheduling in some emotions

As a child whose lip used to quiver when someone called her a mean name like "stupid" well past the age that it seemed like everyone else cried about that stuff (of course, everyone else seemed to have older brothers and were perhaps subjected to name-calling more often), I've come a long way in being able to control my emotions. I can appear relatively calm in the face of disappointment, sadness, anger, envy, and other unpleasant emotions. It's part of being an adult---being able to temporarily set feelings aside and logically handle a situation. A few problems pop up though--one, opening those emotional pressure valves, and two, retaining the ability to react appropriately to others. I don't have too much of a problem getting negative emotions out through a good cry or through a conversation with someone sympathetic. More of a problem is remaining sensitive enough to other's emotions when I'm in a situation where I'm trying to temporarily ignore my own. It's a delicate balance. It's right up there with trying not to sound like a crazy robot when I say things like "I don't have time to deal with feeling X right now."

23:43 2 comments

Comments:

ROBOT! You're a robot!

Ah, different people have different ways of dealing of emotions. I personally classify people depending on how much weight I put on what they say. People I care about a lot, I confront, and people I don't care much for, I just ignore. Not worth it at all.

Oh, and growing up with an older sibling, especially a brother, can thicken your skin too. You've met my brother, you understand, I'm sure :)

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KULA : 8:27 AM

Haha, I can certainly imagine the effect your older brother would have on a kid.

# posted by

Eliina : 8:09 PM